The Traitors Club

Just another person baring their soul on the world wide web…for some reason…

Six Days September 24, 2007

Filed under: Wedding, musings — andmiriam @ 6:26 am

In my friend’s recent blog she had the following quote which i think is perfectly romantic and wonderful:

I will have poetry in my life. And adventure. And love. Love above all. No… not the artful postures of love, not playful and poetical games of love for the amusement of an evening, but love that… over-throws life. Unbiddable, ungovernable – like a riot in the heart, and nothing to be done, come ruin or rapture. – Shakespeare in love

And since I am getting married I am all sappy and romantic. But I will say this: Love is about more than flirtation with fate, it is about more than the initial fantasies and the beginning stages of relationship where all stories are new and all of time seems to fly by. It is about sustainability and peace and above all a feeling of home. It is this feeling of centeredness, this feeling of unshakable grounding, of being where you belong – that will be a riot in the heart. Unbiddable, ungovernable and unpredictable at the best of times. But worth every exhausting second of it for that feeling of home. That feeling of home in a person is what I need, which is why I am marrying him in six days. Come ruin or rapture.

 

Get Rid of Your Unproductive Work Habits Once and For All September 17, 2007

Filed under: weekly — andmiriam @ 1:32 am

Well obviously I am the wrong person to ask, as I am updating my blog instead of doing my readings… so in stead of giving you the 10 best ways to get back on track… I’m going to give you a little joy, from one procrastinator to another.

enjoy.

A little distraction

 

New Article September 10, 2007

Filed under: Uncategorized — andmiriam @ 4:39 am

Hello cyberspace.

I need some advice on what to write on next… I want to do an article on something punchy but I just cant decide… Let me know what you think.

 

-How to make foreigners love you (This one is mainly geared towards making other peoples grandparents love you more than they love their grand kids)

 

-How to look fancy with five outfits and a blow dryer (This one centers around buying new things wherever you go and may or may not involve marrying a rich Russian)

 

-How to dream you are being attacked by bugs and drive away the one good thing in your life (this one deals with getting rid of fiance’s by attacking yourself in a semi-conscious dream state, and then asking them to still love you. You can see where I am going with this.)

 

-And on the same note: How to stay awake all night trying to catch that mosquito you can hear but never seem to find (This one is particularly fun and important.)

 

-Also related: How to shriek ridiculously and hide in cowardice from a dive-bombing-giant-moth (I can give a personal story for this one, and might never open my window again.)

 

-And finally, inspired by current events: How to murder your daughter in a rental car and pretend she was stolen from you (This is one I think many people can relate to and learn from.)

So let me know what you think. I am really just spit-balling here but I think I have come across something. somethings. You know what I mean.

 

7 Must-Know Personal Safety Tips For Solo Women Travelers September 10, 2007

Filed under: Uncategorized — andmiriam @ 4:26 am

Most single women avoid traveling alone abroad.I know I did. Until I got a job that involved traveling alone every month, at which point I had to face the realities of being a single woman traveler.

I’ve had to use the men’s room more times than I can count. I’ve been proposed to by a stranger (thanks to a short skirt). I’ve even had to avoid another traveler whose psychopathic tendencies turned my friendly conversation into some sort of deep friendship.

But the point is that I’ve learned the hard way that when traveling alone, whether you are a woman, man or child, you have to be aware. Aware of culture and surroundings and how you are perceived by others.

Personal safety does not start with a bottle of pepper spray, it starts with being aware of your surroundings.

That being said, I am definitely not against letting go and having fun. Traveling alone has opened my eyes to so much, especially about myself.

It’s been invigorating, enlightening and so exciting. Which is why I would recommend it to anyone – along with my 7 travel tips for the single woman adventurer.

1. Know the Culture

Some cultures find it an offensive, or even enticement, for women to wear short skirts, shorts or even bathing suits.

To prevent harassment and even physical violence, dress for the culture you are visiting. If in doubt take your cues from local women, who set the standard for what attire is acceptable.

2. Only use taxi from a registered taxi stand

Do not go off with men standing about saying their taxi is just over there (vague direction) and who say they will give you a discount. Be cautious and go with the registered taxi.

3. Carry a personal safety device

A whistle may cause just enough distraction to give you a chance to escape an unpleasant situation. Some countries may not allow certain safety devices, so again, know the standards of the country you are entering.

4. Watch your back

If you think you are being followed, check behind you in the reflection of a building, or duck into a nearby store till the person has passed you. Do not be afraid to ask for help, most people will be glad to lend a hand.

5. Do not tell strangers your travel plans

Strangers may not be as friendly as they first appear, so keep your travel plans to yourself. Also do not hitchhike in the dark or in unsafe circumstances.

6. Stick with a group

If you are feeling watched or followed while sitting in the airport or other public place, attach yourself to a family. Start talking to them, sit near them, befriend them.

You are harder to isolate when you are part of a group.

7. Don’t panic.

If you are in an unpleasant situation be calm and decisive. For extreme danger don’t hesitate to draw attention to yourself. Embarrassment isn’t as bad as the alternative.

Thinking clearly ahead of time and having a plan can go a long way toward forestalling lone traveler’s paranoia.